Yesterday’s Capture Your Grief topic is Secondary Losses.  I can honestly say that I believe the secondary loss I had when Faith died was her life as a whole.  In this I include her relationship, her love, seeing her “firsts”, watching her grow, seeing her walk, talk, drive, graduate, marry, have children of her own, etc…

I guess there are countless secondary losses I feel when describing losing Faith.  When you think of what a person’s life encompasses throughout their entire life, this is a huge loss.  Every moment of the rest of my life, I have lost something that I should be sharing with Faith.  

There is no healing from this “secondary” loss.  It is something you simply have to live with for the rest of  your life.